Bethel Mourns Maro's Passing: A Fond Remembrance
Earlier this month, Bethel lost one of its true gems; owner of the beloved Dimitri’s Restaurant, Maro Kargas died in Cyprus surrounded by family on July 5. As Bethel mourns Maro’s passing, here is a fond remembrance from Bethel’s own Vicki Malone.
Her last name was Kargas, but I suspect many people in Bethel never knew it. She was simply Maro, as distinctive as her name.
She first arrived in Bethel in 1980 with her husband Kyri and three children: Litsa, Noni, and little Demetri. She was the cook for Pizza Pete, as we called him, in his newly opened restaurant in Bethel. Those first months she nearly killed us with an enormous lunch buffet. We gorged ourselves on Greek and Mediterranean dishes hitherto unknown to our remote Alaskan palates: moussaka, pastitsio, spanakopita, chicken cacciatori, roasted lamb, rice pilaf, and stuffed grape leaves. Try as I might to eat with restraint, the tastes and textures seduced me into gluttony. By 1:30 p.m. I would be slumped over the mounds of paperwork on my desk, snoozing dreamily with small flakes of filo from the baklava resting in the corner of my mouth.
Maro was a lean dark beauty. She moved gracefully, and always purposefully. Her low voice and thick accent made her even more mysterious. Rarely making direct eye contact as she brought large pans to the buffet table, she seemed shy, and in those early days of seeing her, I could not have pictured her as an obstreperous girl in Cyprus who hated sitting in school all day - a girl who would steal away to the beach to spend the day swimming and exploring the glorious treasures of the tide pools.
“But whatever did you eat?“ I asked her, knowing she would not have dared go home to eat while playing hooky.
“Oh we ate sea urchin; was my favorite,” she replied.
“Did you cook it on the beach?”
“Oh no, we just split them open and ate them raw!” she said.
There was no end to Pizza Pete’s utilization of Maro’s energy, as lines of customers formed at his door. In short order, Maro decided to open her own restaurant. They leased the old pilots’ quarters on Front Street owned by Rosie Porter. The family lived upstairs and they renovated the downstairs for the restaurant. The whole building was no more than 1400 square feet, but it worked out well for everybody because the price was right and Rosie’s Tundra Drums newspaper crew next door had a steady supply of food.
When Maro approached the local banker for a loan for kitchen equipment, he asked her to bring her husband into the bank. Highly offended at the banker’s suggestion, Maro felt that he was questioning her competency.
“Listen,“ she informed the banker while gesturing with pointed finger, “I may spake with an accent, but I don’ think with an accent!!!”
And so it was that Demetri, who was only about three years old, darted about Dimitri’s restaurant delighting in whatever games he played (I was shot numerous times), and whomever’s feet he found under each table.
The girls grew into beautiful young women as our town became accustomed to pairing the days of the week to Maro’s homemade soups. Wednesday’s chicken lemon rice (“avgolemono” in Greek, but she never made us say it) may have been many people’s favorite, but her other soups - vegetable beef, lentil, chicken noodle, and clam chowder - all had big fan clubs.
The family outgrew the first restaurant. By the mid 1980’s, Maro mustered her resources to create another restaurant and another home on Fourth Avenue from buildings Buck Turnbull and Willie McGinty moved over from AC, and a house, renovated largely by Buck Bukowski, from Jimmix’s old house moved over from across the slough.
But nothing suffered in a larger venue. Once, when Kyri was away and Maro’s dishwasher was in jail, I attempted to help her by slicing tomatoes for the lunch rush. She stopped me and demonstrated how she took each burger off the grill, cut a slice of fresh tomato, cut a slice of onion, put it on the toasted bun with the lettuce, and handed it off to Katie, the waitress.
“What, you think my customers want an old tomato?” she practically screamed. I recalled that her cook’s assistant had simply disappeared after he suggested she make the lasagna ahead of time and freeze each portion. It was clear that I had been demoted to the job of dishwasher, at least until bail was posted. I learned from Maro that the small things, even in the most ordinary dish, made the difference between mediocre and best.
As the years went by, Maro spent part of the winter in Cyprus tending her olive trees. Each year before her departure, a flurry of devoted customers procured jars of her salad dressing and stowed away a few orders of spaghetti sauce in their freezers before she left. As surely as the geese, she returned each spring to serve white pizza, Greek salad, chicken marsala, or the Neil Scott Special salad, with sublime consistency.
After almost four decades in Bethel, Maro knew every customer by name, whether they liked extra tzatztiki sauce on their gyro, preferred a meat or vegetable calzone, and which dishes were personal favorites. She made time to call Kurt Kuhne whenever she had split pea soup.
She not only cared about what her customers ate, she cared about their children, their sick mothers, their stressful jobs, their diabetes. Although she did not make soup “to go,” she frequently slipped a generous portion of soup to a spouse or friend for Angie or George or whomever was sick, saying, “Take it, she loves the lentil.”
She found joy in our births, graduations, promotions, and weddings, and sadness in all our losses. Dimitri’s Restaurant was a culture of caring, a place where single guys like Jimmy Kohl found a second home. A place where Litsa, Litsa’s daughter Sundi, Nikki, Laura, and a host of other local ladies who waitressed made sure everybody got their turn with equal attention to their orders. And at the heart of it all was Maro.
But this spring, she did not return from Cyprus and the restaurant stands shuttered and empty. On July 5,2017, her family sent word of her passing.
Yesterday, in a fit of nostalgia, I texted Kurt Kuhne, who had studied many of her dishes, “How did she make her meatballs?”
“I wish I knew!” he texted back.
I remembered the failed attempts my daughter Rosie and I had recreating her spinach-rice and thought, “Oh, they wouldn’t taste the same anyway.“ Maro didn’t use recipes and I never seemed to get it quite right, even when I watched her. Those many small things that make all the difference!
Maro Kargas is survived by her children, their spouses, her grandchildren, her siblings, and about 6,000 grieving Bethelites, not including frequent visitors from other villages and out of town.
R.I.P. Maro and “May There Be No Flies on Your Fish!” (A Greek saying we learned from Maro).